Four people you will meet in life...
28 Dec 2009
Author : M.P. Founder
Life is the process of finding love; every person will need to find four people in their life. First person is you, Second person is the one you love most, Third person is the one who love you most, And the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with. In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with. Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one you love most doesn't love you. The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with, is never theone you love most or the one who love you most. He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time. Which person are you in other people's life? No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. But when he doesn't love you anymore,he really doesn't love you anymore. When he loves you, he can't pretend that he doesn't. Same goes, when he loves you no more, there's no way he can pretend he loves you. When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you. You must ask yourself if you still love him, If you also don't love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don't love him, And if you don't love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart? Love is not possessive, If you like the moon, you can't just take it down and put it in your basin, But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad, You can't wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he can't change to become what you like him to be, you don't love him anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him, You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criterias. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test, If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate. When two people are in love, They love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other, they don't trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless; Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry, Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises; don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Remember, swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching!! In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; The one saying, doesn't believe; the one listening, also doesn't believe.Category : Love & Relationship
Gratitude vs Complaining
14 Dec 2009
Author : M.P. Founder
Who do you choose to be most of the time - someone who is grateful a lot or someone who complains a lot?
Which one you choose determines how happy or unhappy you feel.
"All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to complain, but it is truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy."
--- Dennis Prager
Take a moment to think about this statement.
Have you ever known a happy person who wasn't grateful, or a grateful person who wasn't happy?
Perhaps a way to look at this is that happiness is a result of gratitude.
The wonderful thing about this is that, while we cannot always just choose to be happy, we can always choose to be grateful, which results in happiness. So in a roundabout way, we are choosing happiness when we choose to be grateful.
There is always something to be grateful about.
You can be grateful that you are alive and have opportunities to learn and grow and share love.
You can be grateful for the sun, the rain, the snow, the beauty of nature, the green of grass, the glory of trees, the color of flowers, the presence of animals, the food you eat.
You can be grateful that you have a computer on which to read this article.
If you have health, you can be grateful for that.
If you have friends, you can be grateful for them.
If you have a mate, children, a home, a car, a job, you can be grateful for them.
You can choose to be grateful for all the big and little things in life, each and every moment.
The more you choose to notice what is good and beautiful, the happier and more peaceful you will feel.
On the other hand, there are always things to complain about if that is your choice.
Instead of noticing the beauty of the flowers, you can complain about having to water them.
Instead of being grateful for the opportunity to be alive, you can complain about how hard it is.
Instead of being grateful for the sun, the rain, or the snow, you can complain about how hot it is, how wet it is, how gloomy it is, or how cold it is.
Instead of being grateful for you food you eat, you can complain about how hard it is to cook it, or how expensive it is to buy it.
Instead of being grateful for your health, you can complain about your weight.
Instead of being grateful for your partner or your children, you can certainly find endless complains about them.
The more you complain, the more unhappy you will feel.
It is not the person or the situation or the event or the past or anything else that is causing your unhappiness - it is your choice to complain about it instead of discovering what is wonderful about it and being grateful for it.
At any given moment, we each get to choose which part of ourselves we want to express - our ego wounded self who lives in our mind, or true, essential Self who lives in our heart and soul.
If you decide to trust your mind over your heart and soul, you will likely find yourself noticing what you don't like and complaining about it in order to attempt to control it.
Complaining is a form of control and the mind believes that if you complain enough, you can have control over getting what you want.
Your true Self, the aspect of you that is connected with your higher Source of love and truth, lives in the present and feels grateful for the opportunity to express love and appreciation for all that is.
The really great thing is that, given that we are beings of free will, we get to choose to who we want to be, each and every moment!
Category : My Story, My Vision...
Feelings, Needs and Vulnerabilities
22 Nov 2009
Author : M.P. Founder
To continue feeling our love, we need to feel…When it is not safe to have feelings or sensitivities, we quickly lose touch with our passion. Why? Women usually tend to talk more about their feelings and be heard if they are to feel Vibrant in a Relationship and men need to be appreciated for their actions if they are to feel like doing things for their partners. When both stop feeling the safety to share and stop feeling the tender desire to please, feelings are automatically repressed. They begin to build walls around their hearts.
In the beginning of a relationship, both feel love because the wall of repressed feelings is not fully blocking their hearts. But once it does, it cuts off from their loving emotions. To bring back the passion, this wall has to be dismantled.
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Without having the skills to get the love we need, we may automatically begin to stop feeling our needs. When this happens, passion begins to disappear.
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The challenge women face in their relationships is to keep opening up when feeling disappointed and unloved. Otherwise, they will lose touch with their vulnerability and needs. It is of paramount importance!!! Easy to say… , a women does not entail solving problems or offering advice. Conversely, a Male’s listener’s goals should be helping his partner regain her feminine/masculine balance. Men needs to recognize that when a women is upset and seems to be demanding solutions to her problems, it is only she is still operating primarily from her male side. By not responding with solutions he assists her in finding her female side; she will eventually feel better. Men are easily tricked into thinking that if they can give solutions women will then feel better. Her real complaint is that she is not being heard or nurtured as a women. Men must remember, a women talks about her problems not to solve them but to nurture the female side of her psyche.
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Is it true that what a man really want is to make his partner happy? … If he loves a woman, his primary goal is her fulfillment. Her happiness signals to him that he is loved. Her warm responses are like a mirror reflecting back to him a shining image. This fulfillment he gained for instance has to be communicated to her as i believed that it shows mutual fulfillment relationship. A man thrives on appreciation because it directly nurtures his male side. A women thrives on communication because it directly nurtures her female side.
When Men Don’t understand Women
When a woman is emotionally distressed, a man mistakenly assumes that if she is to feel better, she needs some solitary time just as he does. He will tend to ignore her and give her lots of space because that is precisely the kind of support he would want. To ignore her, though, is the worst thing he can do. Men usually instinctively understand when she said "Nothing’s wrong" she really wanted him to ask more questions and draw her out. When she says "Nothing’s wrong," something is usually is, and she needs to talk about it to a listener who is interested and cares. She wants to be asked questions that will eventually help her to open up. Of course, don’t bombard her with questions..approach her in a appreciative and welcoming manner. We are just testing to see if it is safe to talk about our feelings. If he understands her hidden meaning, then she is assured that she can share her feelings and that her needs will be supported.
Adjusting our Expectations
Just as a woman needs to adjust the expectation that a man will automatically listen to her feelings and will equally share all domestic duties, so also a man adjust his expectation that a woman will speak in a loving, pleasing manner , make no demands of him, and be fulfilled. In essence, women need to release the expectation that men will do everything they want, and men need to release the expectation that women will always be loving and happy.
Category : Love & Relationship
Mermaid Palace Updated
12 Nov 2009
Author : M.P. Web Master
Today I updated Mermaid Palace mostly on Diary and Stories page. I change the Diary .and Stories template and added comment support for it. Hope everyone like it. Also change some of the buttons with nice images button. Please report any bugs of problems with M.P site to me feel free to drop a message. Thank You
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Another Update for Mermaid Palace
08 Nov 2009
Author : M.P. Web Master
I added "Who's Online Module" for Mermaid Palace today. So M.P. members can tell who is online other than themself. Another step forward for M.P.
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Mermaid Palace Updated
07 Nov 2009
Author : M.P. Web Master
Another Update for Mermaid Palace today. I finally have time to update M.P. today, was pretty hectic at work last week.
Some of the update today are:
- Comment on Photo Gallery default to open the M.P. Comment, it seem people get confuse cause they have to click first to open the comment content. Also added some smiley feature on the Photo Comment.
- On Diary & Stories, added author/owner of the blogrolls under the Diary name. So people can easily know whose Diary that they like see.
- I also added Birthday List (Displaying M.P. members Birthday of the month)
That;s about all for today Update. I will continue to improve M.P. and thank you for the support.
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